Well, I made it through the year, mostly unscathed. If you know me personally, or follow me on Instagram, you've probably heard my cries a lot. The truth is, nothing I'm going through is out of the ordinary. A bit of a quarter life crisis I suppose.
So, in 2016 here's what happened:
- I started working again, which has had so many growing pains, a blog post for another time.
- I travelled to New Orleans 3 separate times to see 3 couples that I love dearly tie the knot.
- We also had a few family trips to Santa Monica, San Diego, Sequoia National Park, New Jersey/NYC and the Grand Canyon. (Holy crap we travel a lot)
- We celebrated Olive's first birthday which also happened to be the exact day she started walking.
- I connected with a lot of other wedding vendors here in Las Vegas (thanks to the summer dinner).
- I started a blog, keeping up with it kind of feel by the wayside. Oops.
- I opened and Etsy Shop.
- My brother moved out of our house and back home to New Orleans.
- We hosted so many loved ones in our home.
- And I learned just how hard it is to have a very active toddler who gets in to everything.
- Finally, Alex and I experienced the 7 year itch. We've actually be together for 8 years but we were a little googly eyed over our new baby last year. Shit, y'all marriage is HARD with a baby. I mean, it's also hard without a baby.
My quarter life crisis has everything to do with my job, being a mom and being a wife. It's nothing new, most mamas go through this, but that doesn't make it any easier. I spent the majority of the year feeling like I was doing everything I could, but it never seemed good enough. If I focused on Olive, work and marriage suffered. If I focused on work, my loved ones suffered. In all of this, I was suffering the most because I was spreading myself so thin and forgetting to take care of myself. We all know, if we don't take care of ourselves, it's difficult to take care of other people properly. I always think of the safety spiel the flight attendants do right after you finish boarding the plane - put your own oxygen mask on first before doing it for someone else. Because, if you go to take care of the other person first, you could pass out and not get the chance to put it on and then you'll both be out.
So the end of the year, I focused on my marriage. We both felt like the other person wasn't doing their part and we became nit-picky and downright mean to each other. We decided to consult a professional. Let me tell you, the second we made the appointment to talk to a therapist, things immediately started turning around. It was almost as if it was the first sign of admitting our own faults rather than pointing out the other persons issues. What we realized was that we need to act as a team, and we were actually on the same side. And we hadn't even talked to her yet!
This opened so many new doors for us, we talked about possible solutions to our problems, and then took action. One thing we decided on was putting Olive in school. I had a lot of separation anxiety so this was hard to come to terms with. After awhile I realized she needed more than just me and Alex and that I had to do this for her. As an introverted mama, it's hard to get out of the house and interact with other people/children and this wasn't fair to Olive. So, she started school Jan 3. I finally realized that this would be good for me too, I can have a quiet house to myself to get work done.
So here's what I'd like out of 2017:
- travel just as much as in 2016
- move back to New Orleans, or at least closer.
- grow my business by developing my personal style, being better organized, and by not comparing myself to other people
Here's the highlight reel - some my favorite photos from the year.